[Soul_Glo]

Or your partner if you don't have a wife. Call me a control freak but she just doesn't seem to get it. Having been a driver for more than 15 years I struggle to be a passenger in any car I am not driving. I love driving and don't let anyone drive my baby. If I have to be a passenger in my car then I hate the way someone else drives it no matter how experienced they are and regardless of gender. Anyhow... After 7 years we have had this argument for the first time where she feels entitled to driving my car. At first I resisted but then the debates came of how I was not sharing. So I let her drive it around a parking lot and thought that would be the end of it. Then came the story of how it gave her confidence and I even let her have it a few times for work - as I supported her confidence. Now the pressure seems to be intensified because she wants to share journeys and drive a leg there or leg back when we go on long trips. For the last 7 years I have taken us everywhere. It's coming up to a year since she passed her test but it has no bearing on it because she is a great driver. So it's all ended in a massive headache and she said: "Stick to yours and I will stick to mine." I'm not sure I know how to compromise on this one. I offered to buy her the new 1 series but it still came back to her wanting to swap cars now and again.

[takumichinoku]

Haha! Put it this way your a lot braver than me. Don't think it would be worth arguing with my missus. "Just take the damn car bitch"



Bro let her share, it's just a car and long journeys as a passenger is underrated.

[half Colin]

My wife can drive my car whenever she likes but the fact is she prefers driving her Fiat 500. A relationship is about trust and sharing - give and take. You share the good stuff but you also have to share the bad stuff. If she wants to drive why wouldn't you let her? I know being a passenger is boring compared to driving but you have to take your turn.

[gangzoom]

Originally Posted by takumichinoku

Haha! Put it this way your a lot braver than me. Don't think it would be worth arguing with my missus. "Just take the damn car bitch"



Bro let her share, it's just a car and long journeys as a passenger is underrated.

+1

My wife drove the 335i more than I did in the last 12 month I owned. She even drove up and down several Swiss alps. Since I sold my 335i, her car is worth about £20K more than my current car

[AceOnShake]

No, she can't dive a standard..

[M.Power]

I'm sorry but this is really dumb.... A car is materialistic, I don't understand why your opposed to your wife driving it at all. And if it really is that much of a problem, get a stick car.

[Rich_D]

My wife drives all of my cars, even my M5, although most of the time she uses her own

[camel335M]

I'm not opposed to letting my wife drive my car, but it definitely makes me nervous. ..She's lived in the same city for 26 years and still gets lost. Just a little protective I guess, but the kids are definitely not allowed, I've seen what they've done to my wife's car, woooof!

[socal619]

I'll let me wife drive 335is whenever she wants.... happy wife, happy life lol.

[AlwynMike]

I don't have much of an issue with SWMBO driving my car(s).
She would be upset if I took her off the insurance of any of the household cars.

However Broken_Gearbox, when we are together, I drive whatever the circumstances. If she picks me up from the station in her car, I'll drive it home. It's just one of the things we do, and always have done. She knows how much I love driving, so she lets me do it, whatever the length of journey. I did share driving with her once, on a run down to the south of France - she took the wheel of my 330d E46 for an hour to give me a rest - I had a nap, woke up, and took over.

I had my MG when we met back in 1979. She has driven it probably half a dozen times max. More her choice! She's driven my E91 once, just to try it when I bought it. My son drove my MG for the first time last Thursday to a local show (I was driving a friends 1954 MG). He loved it, and wants more. Dad doesn't

Mike

[HouseN54]

Yup! when ever she wants. no biggie imo

[Sparky68]

I let her drive it all the time. It's the only time it doesnt get a good caning!

[Soul_Glo]

I realised how much it means to her so I put her on the insurance earlier this year. The whole reason I ticked memory seats on the options was so we could share it but she never wanted it back then. She can have it whenever I am not using it but not with me in the passenger seat too often. At first she translated it as me not allowing her to drive it as "I don't love you." We sorted things out a while ago but it's interesting... I spoke to about five guy mates who said "no way I wouldn't let my lady drive it at all.." And another 3-4 buddies said it was okay for them... It's funny because what's hers is hers and what's mine is hers. Even though I have felt at times that I have worked so hard for what I have and felt like this is something for me I slowly got over it. This evening we sat down and worked out our differences. At first I was thinking first a car and next she'll push for something else but she apologised genuinely and so did I. She finally gets it that it is my comfort zone, I am car proud and just because I don't drive hers often doesn't mean I don't care. Biggest thing she realised... Me not sitting with her is nothing to do with her driving but she has rarely seen me as a passenger. We had a long hard think and I have only been a passenger about 5 times in the last 5 or so years and that was when I was really screwed and unable to drive. Thank Goodness for that! Love her yo bits and glad we sorted this shit.

[Sparky68]

I honestly dont see what the issue is here. Are you saying you think more of what your mates think than your Mrs?

[Soul_Glo]

Originally Posted by Sparky68

I honestly dont see what the issue is here. Are you saying you think more of what your mates think than your Mrs?

No issue but many views out there and some were retarded like my old views and one of them even turned on me because he thought I was up myself for being a "driver." I know a handful of guys who love driving and their wives never complain. Wanted to here some more views from our forum members out of interest.

[Sparky68]

Put it this way, hopefully you will be with your wife years longer than your mates, no brainer really.

[un1eash]

All the time but she won't drive the Lotus as shes scared she might break something.

[Needbmwpartzz]

Yep,she drives it.

[Soul_Glo]

I know at Sparky that's why I had to make a change. I did it without consulting anyone and have never asked anyone on advice for my marriage. Wondering what the views were that's all.

[MERLIN335i]

NEVER in a million years........even if she had a license

[AWSAWS]

My wife doesn't have a license. When she does get one, NO WAY!

Women and spatial awareness. Sorry I haven't seen good results.

[Dann]

My OH is on my insurance but she said she never wants to drive my cars and TBH unless it was a complete emergency I don't want her driving my car, especially because the most powerful car she has ever driven is a 1.6 focus.