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Same with the initial conversation - some people are easier that others - they offer up things that help. Asking someone "how was your weekend?" and being told "it was ok" doesn't help. Being told "oh - went sailing with friends and..." now you can ask about their sailing and what they took out (if they even know). |
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I should rent my wife's dog out by the hour! He flirts his tail off around women, and I'm sure that he'd make the ultimate wing-man for a single guy.....
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I feel like most of the time in messages I am doing most/all the work, even trying to solicit more than the few word response. I eventually stop messaging after a few messages because I get discouraged and/or annoyed. I get we're playing the numbers game, it just becomes tiring when all of the people I message are lame a.f. or not interesting. |
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03-22-2021, 07:22 PM | #8518 |
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I've put your words to the test - someone WAY too hot for me came up on OK Cupid so I sent that message - I'll tell you if she responds!
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Depending on the paint is used for...
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03-23-2021, 07:48 AM | #8524 | |
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I think you just need to change your mindset. Throughout this thread, I see your posts, then I see people offer advice, then I see you tell people how that won't work. I'll say this, if I'm interviewing candidates for a position and I have someone tell me what I want done won't work, I'm open and I'll listen (just in case I missed something and this person may know more than I do). If I continue to see other people accomplish what I want done, and this one person is telling me it can't be done; I'll hire a different candidate. Just food for thought man. Those of us trying to offer solutions, aren't here to try to make you feel any certain way, we are just trying to help by sharing what worked for us. I feel like the negativity expressed here may be oozing from your pores in general. Women pick up on this and zero in on it. Get confident sir. You have all the makings to do so. Everything else will come easy. Case in point. I'm not what one would a very attractive person, maybe I'm wrong, but it's just not how I see myself. I used to weight 240, I now weigh 140 but still not chiseled looking (but I'm still working on it), I'm bald (shaven) because I started losing my hair a few years ago (rather than hide it or cover it - I embraced it), I'm covered in 20 year old tattoos (used to be a tattoo artist - so yeah the former bad boy thing works for me), on top of this, I'm 44 and starting to show my age. The point of saying all this? Women still flirt with me, and often. I catch girls half my age checking me out at the gym. My girlfriend looks like she's in her 20's. How? I'm confident in who I am and I'm told it exudes from me. To me, I'm just some 40-something year old, bald guy, with old tattoos, who stays stressed out. The people around me see me in a different light apparently. It's not about what you look like, what you have to offer, etc.; it's your personality that attracts people. Some of the ugliest and dumbest damn people I have ever met have smoking hot girlfriends or wives. Why? Because they were able to make their significant other feel comfortable around them. Now! Reply to the "Thank you" message with a simple "You are quite welcome. How are things working out for you on (insert dating app name here)?" Things aren't going too well on said dating app or she wouldn't still be on there, unless she's just a slut and wants attention. If that's the case, ask her out, have some pointless sex and up that confidence level. Create a simple, yet entertaining conversation with her. She replied. That's a huge thing on app dating. If nothing else, it's a new personality to learn and gain experience from. The world is full of pearls sir, you just have to dive a little. |
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Then say, "You're welcome...how was your day?"
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Move on to the next one!
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Either I'm too much of a douche, or there's a very obvious different in tactness for dating between generations. Both are equally plausible, I am a self aware douche.
I'd NEVER say anything like that, because I wouldn't get a reply from girls my age. My most succesful tinder bio was something along the lines of "looking to trade my dad's money for a green card". I'll have to dig a bit because I haven't been on anything for the good part of a year now but not giving a single crap on what anyone thinks of you is EXTREMELY liberating. Am I proud to be a douche? No, not really; it's a facade more than anything. But that seemed like the rules of the game so I just played along |
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+1, pickle. I'm not any sort of player - definitely awkward and introverted - playing a bit daft definitely seemed to grease the wheels of conversation. Not stupidity, but just not serious and definitely not chat up lines.
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If you can make them laugh, have decent hygiene, and aren't a macho douche the field is yours.
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Women are going to be far more choosy on computer dating especially if the men outnumber them say three to one in the agency books and it's easy for men to feel dejected when they don't score immediately.
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Yep. Spot on. Funny story time. Was talking to a girl on whatever dating site. She was cute, not my type, I like dangerous and fun over religious goody two-shoes (those girls can't keep up with or handle me.....at all.) Anyway, after chatting and a few phone calls over about a week and a half; she tells me that she had been talking with me and another guy. She then tells me that she wants to pursue her interest in the other guy. This is where being funny bites me in the ass. I reply to her message with "How dare you! I have fallen head over heels in love with you over the last week even though I don't even know you." I instantly reply "Just kidding, thank you for your honesty and I enjoyed the conversation. Good luck with (whoever, I'm sure they aren't together now anyway) I hope everything works out." I go to hit send on the second message and she had already blocked me. Dammit. I feel like I have maybe mentioned this story before, if so forgive me. My memory is terrible these days. Uncle Wede I'm sure will have something to say about old age.....because really old ass people love to comment on how old the Freshmen of the geriatric community are.
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Thank you sir. I too am socially awkward, use it. Call attention to it and make a game of it in public. Chicks dig shit like this. I have this "gift" of being able to read people. Some dates that I had been on, in the past, where things seem to lull, I would explain this talent, then look around the venue and start describing people's relationships, who is in charge, who makes more money, etc. Then it would turn into what are they talking about? Then our conversation would turn to jokingly trying to decide what they are discussing and creating dialogue based off their facial expression and body language. Next thing you know, my date is doing it too. Seems childish, but that shit works. Entice a girls imagination and get her smiling, add alcohol and physical/eye contact - you're in for a good night. |
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@dinonz, believe you are gen X so definitely leann into Rudi and MKs advice. While im genX as well, ive never had to do the online thing so cant help there, though i feel for anyone from our gen that has to deal with this new world order.
But, a few thoughts to highlight as others have pointed out, your confidence in yourself needs to shine to be successful- which by reading the bits and pieces seems to be the case in your professional life...so you need to focus the same energy that made you financially successful into your personal life. And that means everything you did to succeed, the prepartion to hone your skills, your approach to problem solving and on and on. If you are not happy with some of the things about yourself that you can control -ie presentability, weight, tidiness and so on, that will be projected on anyone you are trying to approach so i do suggest you work that out regardless....just like knowing when you wear a suit to a power meeting so to speak. You dress for the part and in this case dressing is your entire presentability, you dont have to be “hot” to be cool. Finally, great story on your dog- and very cute...But...reading that story makes me feel that you have a sure built in failure to any future relationship, so I recommend working that out asap. Say you get the right match online and make a real connection, you have a few dates and you finally get her to come to your home- to a dog that fiercly hates anyone but yourself! Boom! All that work destroyed in an instant- and that will absolutely happen if you take no action. As it seems you have been successful, well hire a dog trainer, heck hire 2 if thats whats needed, but you cant have that as yet another obstacle and surely there is some trainer out there that can help you and the pup find some peace around other human beings...good luck |
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