Found the solution.
here
https://www.bimmerfest.com/forums/sh....php?t=1260184
"Yes, I had (I think) the same problem. Here is how two “geniuses” fixed it after about 15 minutes of fiddling around:
(1) In the vehicle, while running, go to and select Connected Drive main menu from home screen
(2) Go to the icon (under apps) for the “BMW Connected” App; don’t select, rather hit Option button next to your iDrive control wheel
(3) Go to and select the “Update BMW Assist” item. It will indicate “Transferring Data” for several minutes and tell when successful, select “OK” then.
(4) Go to the “My vehicle/iDrive settings/Data privacy menu” and the previously missing selection option for “Remote 3D View” should now be present. Enable it and you should be good to go. "
Took 7 seconds LOL.
Mike